pairing up... and perspective

When I got home for the race last night and was snuggling in bed with my hubby (post HOT shower to completely rid myself of the stanky sweat I had accumulated) he said somthing that really struck me. He said he wished he could be as fit as I am.

Now bear in mind, my husband is not overweight. He is 6' probably 160lbs, fairly lean, and has some decent muscle on his narrow frame... but he has never been an athlete. Mike has lived with pretty severe asthma and respiratory allergies all of his life. Before advair (miracle rx for asthmatics!) he used an albuterol inhaler on an hourly basis just to keep his lungs open enough to breathe.

He's had a couple of short-term affairs with working out... lifting weights for a while here or there... walking to and from work for a while... so it's not a matter of can't any more from what I can tell.

There are some scheduling issues what with our oposite schedules so the kids don't have to go to daycare, and having no family close to dump them on for a couple of hours at a time that make it more difficult for us to schedule workout time together... but really... its not an excuse. I would love it if he would run with me or even ride his bike next to me while I ran. I want to encourage his desire to be more fit, but I also know (from my own experience) that it won't be anything I say that will get him motivated to move again... it will come from him.

I am not sure what exactly is holding him back. Maybe he doesn't like exercise... maybe he just doesn't want to put in the time/effort... maybe he's just too damned tired from working/taking care of kids, etc.

But ya know what? I want him to be fit and healthy too... its no fun running alone all the time... so what do I do? Encourage without being pushy I suppose. I'll work on it, and keep ya posted.

Posted by Lexy at July 30, 2004 10:44 AM